I got an email recently form someone asking me why it was I was so interested in helping people have better relationships and sex lives.
Here is why:
I don’t know when the romance ended for my parents, but I do know it was when I was really young. When I close my eyes and think back, the earliest memory I have is of me laying in bed hugging my Teddy Bear when I was just 5 or 6 years old. I take my fingers and push them as deep as I can into my ears until I almost feel like I’m tickling my brain. I bury my head under the pillow. I hum to myself. I cry to myself. I whisper to Mortimer my Teddy Bear and beg him to get them to stop.
But he can’t. And no matter what I do, no matter how hard I try, my tiny littler fingers can’t block out the sound. The shouting vibrates through me. The anger, the frustration, the hurt. At the time, I was too young to have any idea why my Mom and Dad were so mad at each other all the time. Why they were so mean to each other. But I know it was like this almost every night. And I knew it just kept getting worse. It got to the point that as soon as I would hear Dad’s car pull into the garage my heart would start to pound like a jackhammer because I knew what was coming. He’d climb the stairs, hang his keys on the hook. I’d hear Mom banging the dishes in the kitchen. And again and again, they’d go to war.
Then one night it all came to a head. It must have been 11 or 12 at night, (way past my bed time) and they’d been at it for over an hour. Who knows about what? But I guess I had enough. I took Mortimer and crawled out of bed. I padded down the hallway in my G.I. Joe pajamas. The light in the kitchen felt so bright it stung my eyes and I could barely see. I took a deep breathe and shouted as loud as my little voice could
“I’m trying to sleep, can you please be quiet!”
And then suddenly…there was silence. My Mom and Dad looked at me, looked at each other and I couldn’t figure out why but they both suddenly had tears in their eyes.
Flash forward 30 years….
And there I am on Valentine’s Day, sitting on a couch in a television studio in New York City about to be a featured guest on the Rachel Ray Show to teach millions of people around the world how to use Text Messages to multiply the Romance in their relationships. And as the makeup guy powdered by bald head and I looked out at the crowd all I could think was, “How the heck did I get here?”
I try to have a lot of fun in my emails and in my products, but when it comes down to it I care about you have a better relationship because I know full well the fall out when you don’t. It’s easy to think this is just about sex and fun and romance. But in the end it’s really important.