(This article is for the ladies. Guys, go away.)
Hey, it's Mike Fiore and today I want to talk to you about to how to flirt with a guy using simple little text messages to drag his attention onto you like a laser beam.
Now, what do I mean by "text message flirting?"
I mean sending tiny little messages during the day that force a guy start thinking about you and craving you . . . that create a hunger in him to see you and know more about you . . . and that even get his inner motor running so he starts fantasizing about you and becomes just a little bit obsessed with you.
What I don't mean is "sexting."
There's nothing wrong with "sexting" in the right circumstances (and I talk about that topic a LOT in my "Text Your Wife Into Bed" program . . .)
But if you're looking for a "boyfriend," a "husband" or anything even remotely serious, the absolute worst thing you can do is bring things to "low down and dirty" town too fast.
(If you're just looking for something casual . . .well, go for it.)
So what do you do?
Let me just give you 5 examples of text message flirting you SHOULD send to the guy you're dating (and four you
should NEVER send no matter how drunk you are or how much you like a guy.)
1. The "Confident Woman" . . . This is a great one to send right after you meet a guy and get his number or the night after a great date.
"Stop drooling. You'll see me again soon =-)"
Why does this work? Because it's ballsy and confident and assumes he's attracted to you and is thinking about you. Works wonders.
2. The "Favorite Part" . . . This is a great one for after a date. It shows some vulnerability and sets up the next time you see him.
"That was fun. My favorite part was when you put your hand on the small of my back outside the movie. Sent a little thrill through me. I wonder what will happen next time?"
Obviously, you need to alter this to fit your situation, but you get the idea.
3. The Tease . . .
Super simple and a great way to get a guy engaged . . .
You: "If you were here right now . . . =-)"
No need to say anything else, his imagination will fill in the void. If he gets "dirty" and sends something back respond with:
"Woah! And here I thought we were just friends. =-)"
4. The "Getting To Know You" . . .
Again, really easy. Send him a "Deep and profound" question that he can hopefully answer in just a few sentences.
Don't get too "personal" here. Just play with him (like a cat with a piece of string.)
"If you could be anywhere right now where would you be?"
"What's the single most badass thing you've done in the last 10 minutes?"
"If you found out a girl had done hard core prison time how would you feel about her?" (OK, that's kind of a tease.)
Keep it light and fun.
5. The "Anticipator" . . .
Texting is a great way to build up the heat before a date and have a guy chomping at the bit to see you.
You: "When I see you tonight I'm going to . . ."
You: "Oh, you'll find out . . . =-)"
Or . ..
"You can't even imagine how it's going to feel when I . . ." (OK, that might be dipping into dirty villa.)
Now that we've covered some "Do's" of texting, here's some "Don'ts" . . . the absolute opposite of "text message flirting" in every way.
5 Texts No Woman Should EVER Send
1. The "Nothing" Text. - Honestly, guys are more guilty of this than women are. Basically, a "nothing" text is any text that would be (or could be) sent by a 19 year old Frat boy. Classic nothing texts are "Yo." "What's up?" "Hey" and anything else monosyllabic. A good flirty text goes somewhere. It's part of a conversation and part of a story.
2. The "Story of my life." - When I coach guys I actually tell them to use MORE words in their texts than they're expecting, but when you're just flirting (and when you're dealing with guys) you need to pull things back a bit. Keep your texts to a sentence or two at a time. Be mysterious. If you tell him everything there's no reason he'll want to see you again soon.
3. Naked Pictures.
OK, as a guy it kills me to say this, but keep the clothes on. Why? It's not because naked pictures can't work wonders to get a guy scampering after you . . . It's because (as every celebrity known to man has found out the hard way) WHAT HAPPENS IN VEGAS ENDS UP ON FACEBOOK.
If you send a sexy or "dirty" picture to a guy (especially a guy you're not in a relationship with) the odds are he's going to show it to his friends or it's going to end up out there on the internet. If you feel like you HAVE To send a dirty picture, keep your face out of it. (Here's a recommendation: Take a picture of your hip with your stomach poking out. Totally decent, but it will drive him wild.)
4. The "Needy" Text.
"Where are you? Why didn't you call me? What are you doing right now? Are you with another girl? Do you like her better than me?"
I shouldn't really have to explain.
Here's the test: any time you write a text like that take a deep breathe and ask your best guy friend "Would this freak you out?" If he says "yes," you need to delete the text.
If you want to know more about Flirty Text Messages and how to use texting to revolutionize your love life, click the link below and watch the video. It'll change your life.