I just got this question about how to handle an ex
who wants to be “friends” and wanted to share it with
you because it’s a REALLY common situation.
“So my ex just wants to be friends
and when I sent him some of the
suggested texts he said he was
concerned that I’m expecting more.
I convinced him I am fine with being
just friends and in fact agree that
the break-up was a good idea but I
enjoy our good times. I saw him tonight
and he said I looked “well.” Is there
ANY hope for me? He did stutter a little
(possibly because I looked hot and was
feeling confident). It’s only been 1 month
since the break up. I appreciate any advice!”
Thanks for your email, you’re doing great.
A couple things:
1. Great job being flippant and “OK.” with being friends. The
key with working the Text Your Ex Back program is plausible deniability.
You’ve got to keep your ex on his toes and wondering what
he heck you’re actually trying to do. As long as he’s curious and confused
you’re doing it right.
2. Yup. There’s hope for you, but there’s no guarantee. There’s
never a guarantee of success in this situation. The more
he sees you out in the world, having fun and not NEEDING
him the more subconsciously attracted to you he’s going to be.
Love your “I agree, the breakup was a good idea” bit.
3. That said: Don’t actually BE his friend.
If you actually ARE his friend (if he can actually
get emotional support from you) there will
be no actual need for him to come back to you.
Like I like to say “The only way to get him
back is to let him go.”
So keep doing what you’re doing. Take care of yourself.
Date other guys. And use Text Judo to let him know
how happy and stable you are. Then occasionally
send him a message that confuses the heck of him
and starts reestablishing emotional hooks.
Oh, and whatever you do DO NOT SLEEP WITH
A GUY YOU WANT TO GET BACK.
Seriously, if you do that you’ll kill your
(Weirdly, if you’re a guy who wants a woman
back, you want to sleep with her as quickly
Great job. Let me know how it goes
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