Joni asks . . .
“Was pursued relentlessly, by someone..Then I made all the typical mistakes with texting. Been one year now. Slowed down pretty much but still hanging on. I text first and he replies almost always. We exchange sexy, suggestive dialogue, photos, etc back and forth, but it doesn’t seem to ever materialize. Talk on the phone. Same Dialogue. Since reading your ebook, things have changed for the better. I am doing it right based on his response.
How do i ever get him back to the place we started, (him pursuing me like crazy) and have HIM make things happen again? Is it even possible? And how to do that without being able to see him? If i text him right now he will answer-but he won’t text first. Is it obvious he just isn’t that into me and i am foolishly wishing he were? give me the hard truth! i’m waiting!
and thank you by the way…”
I don’t know what the “typical texting mistake” was, but it’s obvious some of the bloom has come off the rose for him.
As I say in “Text The Romance Back,” guys need to feel like the pursuer. We like to hunt. We like to conquer.
But we’re also totally happy to “play around” if a woman is the one taking the lead. It’s fun for us, but it doesn’t lead to that same white hot, burning desire that we get when we’re on the hunt.
So what do you do?
Tease the hell out of him . . .
Send him an initial curiosity text, wait for his response . . .
Then make him wait a WHILE before you text him back again. Make sure you leave the thought incomplete.
And set him up to be the one to take charge . . .
“What would you do if you were here right now?”
If he doesn’t respond or ever take change, it means he’s just not that into you.
At that point you can either cut bait, or you can try to make him horribly jealous =-)